Comment update 2

No one has come forward yet so I am still left wondering who posted the comments. My original suspicions that it was Damian still stand as he has not texted me back but I also suspect that it could have been someone else. I have texted her as well but she has not replied either. It is less likely to be her since I have not posted anything bad about her but I have posted recently about what is going on in her life (post has been removed now) and the writing style of the comments seems more like a woman was writing it.
I havent entirely dismissed the possibility that the comments came from a random person from the web but realistically I dont think that is the case. My blog isnt listed publically anywhere so really the only people who should have access are those who know where my site is.
I am still seriously considering removing my blog from my website. It is not something that I want to do because everyone who reads my blog seems to enjoy it or at least appreciate the updates about what is going on in my life. I may consider moving my blog to an area of my site which requires login details and then I can screen who reads it but again that is something I dont want to do.
I'm off home now so I'll post again tomorrow.

Update on comments

I suspect that I know who made the comments they made.
I think it was probably Damian. I have texted him this morning asking if he made any posts on my blog over the weekend and have received no reply which tends to suggest that it might be him.
I made some comments about Damian a while ago (which I have now removed) and I can only apologise sincerely for making them.
I can only justify my comments by saying that I was upset and angry at what I saw as the final nail in the coffin of our friendship - a friendship which I valued highly during my time at university.
I know anything I say now will probably not help much but I thought I should say something anyway.

If I have this wrong and it was someone else who posted the comments then please let me know.

Recent comments

Yesterday someone posted some comments on my blog which have hit me quite hard.
The general impression given by the comments is that I have been lying on my blog about someone in my life and that in doing so I have hurt them.
Unfotunately I don't know who this person is because they posted anonymously but I would ask that they come forward and tell me who they are so that I can apologise to them for causing hurt and so I can correct whatever it is they think I have got wrong.
I always try to post honestly here and up to now I have received no negative comments about what I have written. At this point I am seriously considering removing my blog to prevent anything like this happening again.

Steven and Laura

Well I'm going to post about Steven and Laura.
Steven is my mate in Spain and Laura is his friend - not to be confused with my wife who doesnt live in Spain at all :-)
Anyway, Steven is dating this girl called Rachel. When we visited them in the summer we got the general impression that Rachel is not all that great for Steven but you can never convince someone that someone isnt any good for them - they have to find out for themselves.
So a little while ago Steven broke up with Rachel. Rachel's brother found out and broke into Steven and Laura's apartment and tried to kill Steven. Steven valiantly locked himself in the bathroom and Rachel's brother had a go at Laura, Naomi and some others. He also broke Naomi's finger.
Now things get a little confusing after this because I dont speak to Steven all that much whereas I talk to Laura and Naomi a couple of times a week. I only mention this because I have really only heard it from their side and not Steven's and I dont want it to seem like I am biased.
Anyway, the way Laura and Naomi tell it, Laura was not happy living in the apartment anymore. She was scared that Rachel's brother would come back. She tried to speak to Steven about this but he wasnt interested in moving out and in fact was trying to get back together with Rachel.
Laura decided to move back to England (she is English) and had a huge argument with Steven. She moved in with Naomi but due to a possible job oppertunity in Spain did not leave for England as soon as she had told Steven she would.
Steven found out and accused Naomi and Laura of hiding Laura from him and it all really kicked off.
They havent really spoken at all for weeks now and although Laura still wants to be friends with Steven she doesnt want to be taken advantage of by him or seem to be giving in and so they are at a bit of a stalemate. Neither wants to be the first one to say sorry because it will make them seem like the loser of this whole thing.
I spoke to Steven last night just to hear his side of things and he summed it up quite simply by saying "Laura has left him in the shit - she has moved out and owes him a considerable amount of money. Also because he cannot now pay the rent he has to find somewhere else to live." I asked him why he doesnt just go to Laura and try to work things out and he says that until the practical things are straight between them (ie money and the flat) then he doesnt want to get started on their friendship problems because it will just complicate things.
It seems to me that he is oversimplifying matters.
Like I say, I have really only heard one side of this argument and I dont want to judge but it seems like Steven should be making a bit more effort to keep this friend of his and he doesnt really seem to care.
It is possible that Laura is exaggerating and it is possible that Steven is right to want to sort out the practicalities before sorting out their friendship and with me sat here in another country I'm not really in a position to understand the situation fully but its really hard not to take Laura's side in this.
Who knows whether they will make up. They were the best of friends - so much so that their friendship has always got in the way of me spending quality time with Steven - and it seems stupid to throw it all away but sat here there is really nothing I can do.
Just thought I'd let you know ;-)
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Traffic

So last night I left work at about 5:20pm. I drove straight to the motorway which was queued back for miles and just before 6pm I managed to get back to work having tried to leave birchwood by every available route.
I sat at work until about 7.45pm which was when I dared to attempt going home again and it still took me about twice as long as usual.
The thing is, the only reason the traffic was still bad at that time was because the crashed car was still on the hard shoulder and everyone was slowing down to have a look.
LOSERS!!! If it wasnt for you then I would have got home in time to take Laura to work, look after Anya and generally reduce a huge amount of hassle.

Also, this morning I was coming off the motorway via a two lane slip road. I was waiting patiently in the left hand lane to turn left like a good boy and suddenly this complete loser comes racing up the right hand lane and tries to turn left. You have to wonder how these people havent crashed horribly and died before now. Fortunately the guy didnt realise that he was sat next to "racing start brendan" and he was unable to pull in front of me when we both turned left at the same time.

I find myself getting increasingly stressed while driving because of people who just cant drive. I travel along in the inside lane of the motorway and people pulling onto the motorway seem to think they have some kind of right of way - they would rather crash into me than wait until I am out of the way.

Last night some guy beeped me because I was overtaking him and the guy infront of him stopped. According to that guy's logic it was his right to pull out infront of me just because he suddenly found himself in a lane that wasnt moving.

What is wrong with these people? In my opinion people should have to take their driving test again every year just to prove they can still drive because most of them cant. It's like passing their test was the confirmation they were waiting for that they are the best driver in the world and traffic laws do not apply to them.

I'm almost certain that one day someone will crash into me because I am using my right of way and they think that they are better than right of way laws and decide to drive into me.

I'll say it again.
LOSERS.

I'm back!

Just a quick post to say that I'm back.
I've been in meetings all day so I haven't had a chance to post but I hope to detail the holiday before Monday.
Hope everything is good with everyone and I will catch up with you soon.
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Just before I go...

My website is at http://www.chrisheath.com/meister
I'm fairly proud of my website since it has quite a lot of content now but I really want to expand. Can anyone offer any suggestions on what I can add to my website? I really want to add a whole new section but I dont know what to include in that section.
Any suggestions are welcomed.
Cheers :-)

Amsterdam baby yeah

I'm off tomorrow so I doubt I'll be posting until next wednesday.
Have fun while I'm gone and I'll fill you in when I get back.
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Weekend

The problems that I was speaking about in my last post were between Laura and me. The reason I couldn't post about it last week was that I needed to have a good think about it before I spoke to Laura.
I'm not going to go into all the details of the problem because I think that some things are not meant to be posted here and I have to respect the privacy of my relationship with Laura.
That said, I feel that I should post that we discussed our problems and a lot more came out into the open than I thought would and I feel I have a much better understanding of where Laura is at the moment and why the problem arose between us.
We made an agreement which has eliminated a big problem for Laura and hopefully will have eliminated a big problem for me as well although even if the problem continues we have agreed to be honest with each other about it.

I get the general impression that because I don't want to go into too much detail here that I am just writing cryptic ramblings which seems a bit pointless. I'll just finish by saying that I think we are moving forward as a couple and I hope that at least some of our problems are behind us now.

In better news, the house is starting to take shape. The living room has almost completely been decorated with just the floor left to do and the dining room is slowly getting tidier. I also bought an alarm system for the house which seems far too overly complicated and may drive me insane before it is set up.

Don't forget that I am going on holiday on thursday so there will be no posts after wednesday until the following wednesday when I will be able to post about our trip to Amsterdam and hopefully post some pictures on my website :-)

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Lack of posting

Sorry I haven't posted all week. My only excuse is that it's been a pretty boring week and I haven't had a lot to say.
Reece is out in Spain now with Vicky so the house feels a bit emptier at the moment. I made quite a lot of progress in the bomb site that is our dining room earlier in the week which is good. Hopefully I will be able to make some more progress tonight while Laura is at work.
We're off to Amsterdam next week which will hopefully rock. Must remember to get some Euros sorted before Thursday otherwise I wont be able to buy anything.
I've been quite down recently. Whether or not I have a good reason for being down is something that I am trying to work through on my own at the moment. It's not really something I can speak to anyone about until I have resolved it and I hope that anyone who has noticed that I'm a bit down will just put up with me for now and leave me to sort my head out. Hopefully I will be able to fill you all in before too long anyway.
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Resolution?

Well I have spoken to my mum and laura again and i think that laura believes the truth now about what happened. She was still being a bit off with me when i asked about it but i understand that she is very upset at the moment. Her mum isnt speaking to her because she thinks there is some kind of conspiracy going on in our family to destroy her their relationship which is just ridiculous.
Anyway, my mum has told laura that if her mum ever rings again she is just going to say that she doesnt have time to talk so that there is no way she can ever have her words twisted again.
I feel much the same.
I entered my relationship with laura and despite what laura told me about her mum i made no prejudgements whatsoever. I am very much a family oriented person and the oppertunity to expand my family to include laura's really appealed to me. The treatment I, Laura and my family have received from Laura's mother and Laura's family in general has driven me to the point where I want nothing to do with them.

The mother-in-law

So I'm sure anyone who knows me knows about Laura's mother. I'm not going to get tied up in the details here because what happened last night is fairly exemplary of what she is like anyway.
Last night we went to the pictures. As per my previous post, Anya had been a nightmare on Sunday night so my mum and dad had offered to look after Anya last night so that we could have a nice peaceful evening.
At the pictures we saw "Saw" which was pretty good I thought. The acting was a little questionable at the end but it was probably made worse by the idiot kids on the back row who felt that they had to make jokes about it in loud voices. I hate the way that whenever you see a film there is always some idiot who feels like they are being clever by ruining the film for everyone else. They need to be shot.
Anyway, while we were at the pictures Laura's mum tried to get hold of us. Obviously I couldnt answer my phone so true to form Laura's mum felt that it would be a good idea to ring my mum and dad.
She has had trouble getting in touch with Laura since Sunday because Laura left her mobile at my mum and dads house so she felt the need to let my mum and dad know this. My mum pointed out that we had been round at their house on Sunday to have a meal to say thankyou to Russ, Badger (who couldnt make it) and Paul for helping us move house and that Laura had left her mobile there.
At some point in the conversation Laura's mum found out that Anya was with my mum and dad and immediately made some comment about Laura being a bad mother for leaving her daughter with someone else when she had had a bad night the night before.
My mum tried to point out that they were just helping out as we had had a bad night because they are family and families are there for each other. Thats what families do.
Eventually we left the cinema and Laura rang her mum. We had no previous knowledge of my mums conversation with Laura's mum and in fact I only just spoke to my mum this morning and found out about it.
Laura's mum told Laura that she had rung my mum and my mum had said that we were round there on Sunday night having a family meal because thats what families do. She twisted my mums words to make it sound like my mum was having a dig at her. Unfortunately Laura believed her mum and despite my arguments to the contrary Laura could not be convinced using arguments like "why would my mum say something like that out of the blue?"
Because that is what Laura's mum is like. Thats why.
I can only presume that Laura's mum was drunk. She has a habbit of getting drunk on a nearly daily basis and calling people up and letting them know what she really thinks.
Sadly I think that Laura's mum is jealous of the relationship that has developed between Laura and my mum. Instead of trying to improve the relationship she has with Laura she feels that the best solution is to try to undermine the relationship that Laura and my mum have.
As is stands right now I am not a happy man. I have only just spoken to my mum and Laura is still convinced that my mum said what Laura's mum said she said. My mum is dropping Anya off at about 11 and I have asked her to speak to Laura to let her know what really happened.
What has upset me more than anything in this is not that Laura's mum has created this situation - she does this kind of thing all the time - but that Laura believed her.
No doubt updates will follow later today.
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