Resolution?
Well I have spoken to my mum and laura again and i think that laura believes the truth now about what happened. She was still being a bit off with me when i asked about it but i understand that she is very upset at the moment. Her mum isnt speaking to her because she thinks there is some kind of conspiracy going on in our family to destroy her their relationship which is just ridiculous.
Anyway, my mum has told laura that if her mum ever rings again she is just going to say that she doesnt have time to talk so that there is no way she can ever have her words twisted again.
I feel much the same.
I entered my relationship with laura and despite what laura told me about her mum i made no prejudgements whatsoever. I am very much a family oriented person and the oppertunity to expand my family to include laura's really appealed to me. The treatment I, Laura and my family have received from Laura's mother and Laura's family in general has driven me to the point where I want nothing to do with them.
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I spoke to Laura about what her Mum had said and hope that she believes me that what I said was nothing like has been reported - in actual fact I don't care very much what Laura's Mum said but only about my relationship with Laura. I consider myself very lucky having Laura as a daughter-in-law and am daily amazed at her loveliness when I consider how much she must have had to deal with growing up and is still having to deal with. I would never deliberately try to cause a problem between Laura and her Mum (anyone who knows me will know that just isn't me) especially because I think that the relationship between mothers and their children is very special. Having no daughters of my own, I am especially respectful of the mother/daughter relationship and if I could do anything to help Laura improve hers then I would.
I really feel for both you and Laura in this situation as you would love nothing more than to have a normal relationship with your mother-in-law and Laura gets a raw deal from her Mum whatever she does (and, as I've said many times before, her mother is her mother and as such she will always love her). I also know how protective you are of me and love you so much because of that, but don't let this cause any problems between the two of you (I know how much Laura loves me too and I don't think her Mum will ever destroy that).
You make a wonderful family - you are both doing such a good job of bringing Anya up - remember to encircle her with love and let her see that love is empowering not destructive.
I'm sending you a big hug to share with your family (oh, and save a little bit for Reece - he needs it to take to Spain with him!)
Love as always, Mum
xxxx
16 November 2004 14:44
No advice to give out Bren I was lucky no Inlaw problems. All you can do is just keep on trying.& trying & trying to heal the breach
Love Grandad
16 November 2004 17:46
I'm amazed that you still speak to this woman. you have to be one of the most tollerant guy i know
Ian
19 November 2004 09:52
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